According to Pew Research, online dating has lost much of the stigma it used to have. Almost half the American public knows someone who has tried online dating or met a partner online and one-in-five adults between 24 and 34 have tried dating online. So you’re not alone!
Many people actually do find each other online and end up having long-term relationships. It’s a pretty convenient way to meet someone. My dad even met someone on SinDates last year and is still dating her to this day.
Even though it’s getting more popular, talking to women online isn’t that easy. There are some proven things that work when trying to start conversations, though. I’m going to share with you some of the things that I’ve learned to get you talking and possibly meeting women, so listen up!
Getting a date online
I’m going to help you boost your game and give you proven openers that get women talking to you like nothing else. I’m also going to give you some tips on engaging in conversation.
First, I want to give you the scoop. 70% of girls who go on SinDates go on just to have a conversation. Some girls like the feeling of having a lot of guys talking to them. But there are also a lot of women who are on online dating sites because they would actually like to meet someone. They don’t just want an online friend and they’re not on there to boost their ego. So when you’re trying to start conversations, remember that everything you do should move towards meeting in person and taking things offline.
My experience with online dating
I used SinDates because it was comfortable for me. I still use it time and again when I’m bored, probably like some women do.
I physically met five of the girls I talked to on SinDates, and I lost count of how many numbers I got.
I actually got so good at conversing that I got to the root of why some girls don’t want to meet up. Some girls really are scared to meet up with men from online dating with a site like SinDates, where it’s hard to really know who you’re talking to, and I don’t blame them. SinDates is so risk-free it actually becomes a little risky, especially for women.
On other sites that you pay for, like eHarmony and Match.com and Zoosk, the site has all your information like where you live and your phonenumber. They even go through a confirmation process to validate your identity which makes it more comforting to women.
So if a woman doesn’t want to meet up, there are a million reasons why that could be. She might be busy, in a relationship, out of town, recovering from bad experiences with men, or nervous. The problem isn’t necessarily you. Don’t get hung up on it, and just move on.
But you’re here for the good stuff, so here we go:
My four proven openers for chatting up girls online
1. Quick question, why come on here if you’re going to ignore all the guys anyway.
Explanation: I actually made this up and 90% of the time it works fabulously. You will get an instant reply. Even if she’s a little defensive at first, it’s much better than no response. This is a perfect teasing conversation starter.
2. You’re cute, it’s too bad you go for the jock type.
Explanation: She’ll like the fact you gave her a compliment, but she’ll be intrigued or outraged at how you think you know her. You can easily calm her down, though. Here’s how I do it:
Girl: Excuse me? How would you know I go for the jock guy, you don’t know who I am.
Me: Well I have a good eye, I can spot those kinds of girls when I see them.
Girl: Well not me.
Me: Ur right, I guess it takes time to get to know “some” girls. So what makes you different?
And I’m in.
Explanation: This one actually only worked for me 50% of the time, but I didn’t use it that much. I thought it would be kind of weird and offbeat, something no other guy would use. It’s worth a shot for you at least.
4. You’re cute, it’s too bad you’re one of those shy girls.
This is an excellent opener for someone who is a sensitive guy because it matches you well. The way to engage her is similar to my second opener.
These are the ones that have worked really well for me, but here are some other pointers in case you tried these already or you want some other approaches to test out.